Divorce is a difficult time in your life. It tests your belief system and its tests your ability to recover from a traumatic event. However, it also puts your ability to live by high ethical standards as well.
When you are writing a spiritual ethical will and you are divorced, it can be a great testament to your character and moral beliefs to address your relationships with past spouses in a respectful manner. You can talk about what they added to your life and what you learned from your relationship with them. This approach is particularly important if you have children.
If you have dirty laundry to air with an ex-spouse then do not do it in your general spiritual ethical will. Instead draft a private ethical letter that will be addressed only to your ex-spouse. This will allow you to tell your ex-spouse what you need to tell them. This can be anything from an apology for the mistakes that you made in the relationship, or it can be a statement about how they hurt you or how their actions impacted your life and the life of your family. Writing this type of letter can be very therapeutic, even if the letter never gets to your ex-spouse.
Including your ex-spouse(s) in your ethical will is not a requirement. You always have the option to include what ever information you want, and you always have the option to exclude any information that you want. However, keep in mind that the example that you set with the content in your ethical will, will impact the lives of those that you leave behind.
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