A lot of the blogs that I have posted in past weeks have recommended that you create a series of entries for special people in your life, especially your significant other. However, some of you may be wondering what do you do when you get divorced. Like everything else in life, relationships change. When they do, you may be left with journal entries and ethical letters you intended to give your significant other. What do you do with them? Well that is up to you.
After a divorce you are left with a lot of unresolved emotions. Reading through the letters and journal entries you made for your former partner can help you to accomplish two things. First of all it can help you to resolve your negative feelings about your former partner, or at least identify why the relationship didn’t work. Next, reading these letters and entries can help you to gain closure with that relationship.
After reading these pieces of literature that you have written about your former spouse you have several options. You can throw them away, you can give them to your former spouse or you can leave then in your ethical will to document an era in your life. If you don’t want the entries to be read to everyone during your will reading, and you don’t feel comfortable giving the letters directly to your former spouse while you are still alive, then keep them in a sealed envelope and instruct your will’s executor to deliver the letters to your former spouse during the reading of your will.
Ethical values are things that evolve over time. Experience, life changes and new relationships all impact what your ethical vision will be at the end of your life. Documenting the good and the bad sides of your life in a simple will, will help people to understand you better.
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If you’ve got divorced I believe it’s important to keep things from when you were married, and remember those times. If not it must feel like your whole life (or however long you’ve been married) has been a waste.