The more I learn about spiritual ethical wills the more I fall in love with the idea of one. Spiritual ethical wills are more than just telling people who gets what. It hands down your wisdoms and the values that you have developed during your life. Over the last several months I have focused on what you need to do to complete your spiritual ethical will, for the rest of March I want to help you learn how to help someone else work on and finalize their ethical will.
Generally you need to encourage people to write their own ethical will on their own terms. However, there are times when people will need your help to finalize their affairs. Unfortunately this usually happens when they are facing a short time table for their life and death. If you have a family member, or a loved one, who is entering a Hospice situation, then it is okay to help them write their ethical will, and it could, in fact, help bring you both closure to a wonderful relationship.
Determining when it is okay to help someone write their ethical will and how involved you “should” be is not easy. Writing an ethical will is a very personal activity, however, if you have a special person in your life that needs a little help saying what needs to be said, then go for it. While it is okay for you to guide their hand in regards to how an ethical will is written, your primary role will be as recorder not author.
Helping someone write their spiritual ethical is both a gift from you and for you. When helping someone with their ethical will you will want to listen more than you talk and document their thoughts and feelings without filtering it through your own moral and value system. Return next week to learn how to document someone’s last thoughts.
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