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Design your document. Have your outcome in mind. Present it for what it is, your legacy: your discoveries, experiences and values. Be truthful rather than hurtful, insightful rather than piercing... guiding with love and care rather than blame or judgment. Remember that you will be remembered by your words.
When you read the ebook, Your Ethical Will, you will discover the great impact your document will have for generations to come.
An ethical will highlights your successes as well as your challenges, and you want friends and relatives to use it as a guideline to discover their own strengths and limitations. They will follow your suggested practices easier if you document them as values and beliefs rather than rules. They will accept your generational wisdom if you share rather than order.
Use your experiences to recommend, and explain why you feel your suggestions are important. Your feelings will touch them deeper than detailed instructions. Show through your words how your philosophies will help. For this is your real legacy!
It is sooo important how to write an ethical will. Be considerate in the language you use. The words, phrases and tone of your ethical will determine its impact. It will be your voice speaking to your loved ones. Make the voice a loving and supportive one. You may not be around to clarify your meaning, so watch your words.
Write your ethical will when you are feeling positive, not during times of stress or depression. What is it you want to be remembered for? If you write the words in a positive frame of mind, your legacy will be a loving expression of your feelings and ideas. This is "the wealth of your life" that your family will experience when they read your ethical will - that you are there, guiding them with your heart.
Most importantly, use quality materials in a lasting medium. Acid free paper (archival paper) will not deteriorate over time. You will want The Wealth of Your Life to be cherished and shared for generations. You don't want yellowing paper or fading ink to represent your values and beliefs to your great-grandchildren. You'll want the document, video or recording to be as fresh fifty years later as it is the day you create it. Your ethical will is your life dedicated to time.